Toni Payne has decided to come to time makinwa rescue by defending her action and shuting her critics....below is her expression on her blog
Let me start by saying, we sometimes avoid those touchy
subjects because we wish to avoid “drama” but Cyber Bullying is
one concept it seems we are yet to get a full grasp on its
consequences.
We have seen cases of young ones committing suicide because
they couldn’t handle the bullying. I pray and hope things don’t
get this far in my motherland, although I suspect it may have
and we just don’t document it as much.
There is this ”trend” of making vicious comments about others
that has become popularized by certain blogs.
I have seen it happen to celebrities and non celebrities alike,
some notable names being Tonto Dikeh, Dbanj, and most
especially Karen Igho, just to name a few. Its like the general
mentality has become, if you ever become the topic on certain
blogs, get ready to either grow thick skin or have a mini heart
attack.
Anyways lets fast forward to why we are here. Today, I saw
tweets to the effect that Toke Makinwa was being attacked on a
certain blog. One of the retweets took me to the source and my
heart was like, something has to be said. If it changes
something, fine. If it doesn’t, that’s fine too.
Toke may not say anything because she wishes to appear strong
and non chalant, but damn, she isn’t made of steel and has
blood in her veins and emotions like we all do. Last time I
checked, most people that have been a victim of cyber bullying
such as this are human too. Also, there is no age restriction on
these blogs so your kids are reading and learning. To those who
make these comments its “fun”, but when does fun turn into
torment and emotional abuse?
Toke and I are not close friends so I have nothing to gain from
defending her except calling a spade a spade.
If someone is having personal issues, offer words of support and
move on, if she likes going to parties, free her because she is
using her legs and not yours. If she wants to vlog about her life,
take what you can from it and keep it moving. Try and distinct
constructive comments from vicious ones. Try to distinct funny
from wicked.
From the little I know about her, Toke Makinwa is a sweet lady.
She is friendly, funny and down to earth so it leaves me
wondering, what all these people raining hurtful abuses about
her stand to gain. Even if she is not all these things, if they
don’t know her personally, what do they stand to gain? You
want to know the answer? Absolutely NOTHING!. They comment,
laugh, and move on. To them its entertainment but to the person
who is being picked on, its not close to funny. When it becomes
a family member, its not close to funny. If it is your child
someday, it will not be close to funny.
With that said, I hope people search their conscience before they
comment. If not, no problem. We can’t see you as anonymous
but God knows how its going down.
I have had some deep discussions about this with a few big
name celebrities and hopefully, as the years progress, something
can be done to see a big reduction in cyber bullying. Lets aspire
to love more and hate less.
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